Aug 14


I’m not sure when it happened. It’s not the way my mother raised me. And I’m not sure what I will do if my children catch me in the act. But, it’s true. I write in books.

Contrary to what you might think, however, writing in books is a sign that I treasure that book in some way. Most books in my life are disposable — I will read them, perhaps shelve them for awhile, and then pass them on. If I am reading a book that I know I will want to talk about on our books podcast, or write about here on the blog, I will sometimes use sticky notes to mark down a few ideas, but I don’t even do that very often. The majority of books I own are unmarked. I write only in books that I know I will want to keep, will refer to often, and that are full of such valuable information that I will lose track of it if I don’t mark it in some way.

It started with a tiny asterisk. Mark Bittman’s How To Cook Everything was the first. At 960 pages, I knew that I had to mark which recipes I’d tried and liked, so that I could find them again when I needed them. A small mark in the index was harmless, right? But then I started tweaking the recipes. I liked that pie with a bit less sugar. I substituted wine for broth in that dish and liked it just fine. How would I remember that? I had to make notes on the recipe pages. Pencil fades, so out came the pen.

I recently received a copy of Trust Agents by Chris Brogan and Julien Smith that was sent to me for review. It’s a business book that is focused on using the internet to help create and foster human connections — not typically the type of book that we talk about here at BOTNS, but a topic that interests me personally. So when I sat down to read, I was unprepared. Midway through the first chapter, it occurred to me that I might want to grab a sticky note or two. By the end of the first chapter, I went to my office for a pen. And then I spent much of the evening underlining, writing notes in the margins, and drawing lines and arrows to things that I didn’t want to overlook. There were so many valuable ideas in the book that I had ink on almost every other page. And that’s when I realized: I am honoring a book when I write in it. It means that the book has an importance that I predict will carry on some time into the future.

I’m still not sure what I will say to my kids when they see me marking up a book. It will certainly be a conversation filled with discussion about personal books vs. those borrowed. But I think I can make the argument that writing in books can be a good thing, and even an honorable thing.

What are your thoughts? Do you write in books? Which books have you written in, and why? I’d really love to know.
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We encourage you to write down or print out the title information and shop at your local bookstore. Titles link to LibraryThing, a social networking site that allows you to catalog your home library. LibraryThing also links to various online purchasing options. Here are the books from this post:

How to Cook Everything by Mark Bittman, John Wiley& Sons hardcover
Trust Agents by Chris Brogan and Julien Smith, John Wiley & Sons hardcover

(all information is for the U.S. editions).

  • Tanya

    Like you, I started making notes in cookbooks. Then I started inserting complimentary recipes, wine pairings and prep schedules. My cookbooks are held together by sets of book bands (they are like super wide rubber bands) that a friend gave me.

    I’ll occasionally make a small notation, in pencil, in others books, but usually, the margins are too small or the binding isn’t strong enough to hold all my inserts. But really, I don’t like marking books, or breaking bindings or, even folding down the corners to mark my page. It seems somehow sacrilegious!

  • Tanya

    Like you, I started making notes in cookbooks. Then I started inserting complimentary recipes, wine pairings and prep schedules. My cookbooks are held together by sets of book bands (they are like super wide rubber bands) that a friend gave me.

    I’ll occasionally make a small notation, in pencil, in others books, but usually, the margins are too small or the binding isn’t strong enough to hold all my inserts. But really, I don’t like marking books, or breaking bindings or, even folding down the corners to mark my page. It seems somehow sacrilegious!

  • http://www.thescrapperpoet.wordpress.com Karen Weyant

    I never wrote in a book until I went to college. Then, I saw my English professors do it, so I, naturally, wanted to copy them. Now that I teach, I write in books all the time!

  • http://www.thescrapperpoet.wordpress.com Karen Weyant

    I never wrote in a book until I went to college. Then, I saw my English professors do it, so I, naturally, wanted to copy them. Now that I teach, I write in books all the time!

  • http://www.itsthewayieatnow.blogspot.com Rita

    I write in cook books at times. I don’t really write in too many books, BUT one book I found myself highlighting and writing in was Al Gore’s The Assault on Reason. I loved this book. I wrote essays on this book. And I wasn’t in school.

  • http://www.itsthewayieatnow.blogspot.com Rita

    I write in cook books at times. I don’t really write in too many books, BUT one book I found myself highlighting and writing in was Al Gore’s The Assault on Reason. I loved this book. I wrote essays on this book. And I wasn’t in school.

  • http://www.justthebookstore.com margie

    I am with you on writing in books. I love to highlight the ARC’s that come to our bookstore and that we pass around among the staff. It’s my way of communicating with the next reader, as in: “I liked this, did you?” Then the next time we see each other, we’ll remember to talk about our favorite passages from the book.

  • http://www.justthebookstore.com margie

    I am with you on writing in books. I love to highlight the ARC’s that come to our bookstore and that we pass around among the staff. It’s my way of communicating with the next reader, as in: “I liked this, did you?” Then the next time we see each other, we’ll remember to talk about our favorite passages from the book.

  • http://lizoksbooks.blogspot.com/ Lisa

    I also love writing in my books, including “How to Cook Everything”! I usually write in pencil, and I use the notes when I write blog entries. I much prefer buying books to borrowing them from the library.

    Tanya mentioned bindings… I love loosening bindings, too. When Elizabeth McCracken signed my well-worn copy of “The Giant’s House,” she commented that she could tell the book was well-loved.

  • http://lizoksbooks.blogspot.com/ Lisa

    I also love writing in my books, including “How to Cook Everything”! I usually write in pencil, and I use the notes when I write blog entries. I much prefer buying books to borrowing them from the library.

    Tanya mentioned bindings… I love loosening bindings, too. When Elizabeth McCracken signed my well-worn copy of “The Giant’s House,” she commented that she could tell the book was well-loved.

  • Tanya

    In CHEEVER, A Life Story (by Blake Bailey), there is an account of John Cheever, having been presented with a “well worn” copy of his short story collection to be signed and being outraged that the book had received so little respect.

    My husband, absolutely mutilates books! Not only are the spines cracked and the bindings often broken, he does *something* with the corners of the pages (I’ve watched him read and I still can’t figure out what it is he does) that causes the corners of the pages to disintegrate! Borrowing from the library or other people is out of the question! And the books he reads, when he’s done with them, are often in pieces and we are unable to donate them.

    If I receive a copy that has handwriting inside, I’m actually annoyed. I find the comments hard to ignore and I’d rather not have my reading colored in that way. Which is not to say I don’t care what other people have to say about the book, I’d just rather wait ’til afterwards to read or hear comments.

  • Tanya

    In CHEEVER, A Life Story (by Blake Bailey), there is an account of John Cheever, having been presented with a “well worn” copy of his short story collection to be signed and being outraged that the book had received so little respect.

    My husband, absolutely mutilates books! Not only are the spines cracked and the bindings often broken, he does *something* with the corners of the pages (I’ve watched him read and I still can’t figure out what it is he does) that causes the corners of the pages to disintegrate! Borrowing from the library or other people is out of the question! And the books he reads, when he’s done with them, are often in pieces and we are unable to donate them.

    If I receive a copy that has handwriting inside, I’m actually annoyed. I find the comments hard to ignore and I’d rather not have my reading colored in that way. Which is not to say I don’t care what other people have to say about the book, I’d just rather wait ’til afterwards to read or hear comments.

  • http://teabird17.blogspot.com melanie

    Of course I write in books! Usually, I take notes w/page numbers on the inside back cover, but sometimes……

    I wrote about marginalia on my blog awhile back. At the time, I’d stopped writing, but since I’ve started again, and I’m much happier. If I pass the book on, the recipient can ignore the notes, or wonder why on earth I thought that was interesting…

    http://teabird17.blogspot.com/search?q=marginalia

  • http://teabird17.blogspot.com melanie

    Of course I write in books! Usually, I take notes w/page numbers on the inside back cover, but sometimes……

    I wrote about marginalia on my blog awhile back. At the time, I’d stopped writing, but since I’ve started again, and I’m much happier. If I pass the book on, the recipient can ignore the notes, or wonder why on earth I thought that was interesting…

    http://teabird17.blogspot.com/search?q=marginalia

  • http://sewknitful.blogspot.com Julie

    I write all over my cookbooks – changes I’ve made, who in the family doesn’t like it, if a certain picky family member DOES like it, big YUK’s across failed recipes, happy faces. Other than that I don’t usually write in books but I have a little notebook where I copy down quotes or lines from books that have appealed to me. It’s fun to go back and read old entries and enjoy them again.

  • http://sewknitful.blogspot.com Julie

    I write all over my cookbooks – changes I’ve made, who in the family doesn’t like it, if a certain picky family member DOES like it, big YUK’s across failed recipes, happy faces. Other than that I don’t usually write in books but I have a little notebook where I copy down quotes or lines from books that have appealed to me. It’s fun to go back and read old entries and enjoy them again.

  • Bobbi Hahn

    I don’t usually write in books, but I often highlight phrases or entire paragraphs that I like. When a friend saw me doing this, she was shocked and accused me of book abuse (a major crime, in her estimation) but I own the books, and feel that I can do anything I want to them. I don’t do it in books I’ll be passing on, but only those I plan to keep and reread.

    I think it would be fun to look through a book and read someone else’s comments, though – would they like (or dislike) the same passages that I did? Did they notice something I’d overlooked?

  • Bobbi Hahn

    I don’t usually write in books, but I often highlight phrases or entire paragraphs that I like. When a friend saw me doing this, she was shocked and accused me of book abuse (a major crime, in her estimation) but I own the books, and feel that I can do anything I want to them. I don’t do it in books I’ll be passing on, but only those I plan to keep and reread.

    I think it would be fun to look through a book and read someone else’s comments, though – would they like (or dislike) the same passages that I did? Did they notice something I’d overlooked?

  • http://mybookdragon.blogspot.com/ Gina

    oh, man, my first thought when I saw your blog title was “How dare you!” Then I realized that I write in cookbooks all the time. How else are you going to remember your tweaks?

    Do I write in other books? Textbooks? YES, but others? Not usually. I have written in my scriptures (not just underlining) but I don’t read a lot of life changing kinds of books.

    Is a “fall apart” book well-loved or did the printing mess up? I feel that depends on how many times I’ve read it ;)

  • http://mybookdragon.blogspot.com/ Gina

    oh, man, my first thought when I saw your blog title was “How dare you!” Then I realized that I write in cookbooks all the time. How else are you going to remember your tweaks?

    Do I write in other books? Textbooks? YES, but others? Not usually. I have written in my scriptures (not just underlining) but I don’t read a lot of life changing kinds of books.

    Is a “fall apart” book well-loved or did the printing mess up? I feel that depends on how many times I’ve read it ;)

  • http://thebookladysblog.com Rebecca @ The Book Lady’s Blog

    Oh hallelujah! Finally, someone else confesses to being in my camp!

    I write in books. All the time. And I always have. Well, at least since high school.

    Whenever I read something that I find really striking, or which I want to come back to for my review, I underline it. I also make notes in the margins, draw family trees on the blank pages at the back of the book, and employ my pen however else I need to in order to get the most out of the book.

    And yes, it’s a sign of love!

    (even if my husband thinks it’s next to sacrilege)

  • http://thebookladysblog.com Rebecca @ The Book Lady’s Blog

    Oh hallelujah! Finally, someone else confesses to being in my camp!

    I write in books. All the time. And I always have. Well, at least since high school.

    Whenever I read something that I find really striking, or which I want to come back to for my review, I underline it. I also make notes in the margins, draw family trees on the blank pages at the back of the book, and employ my pen however else I need to in order to get the most out of the book.

    And yes, it’s a sign of love!

    (even if my husband thinks it’s next to sacrilege)

  • Vanessa

    How funny. I just told a developer at work the other day that I can’t borrow programming books from our company library like everyone else as I always write notes in them. Programming books in addition to being something of a snooze are also frequently uncheap so I wish I had another method but nothing else works as well for me. So for those types of books, yes always.

    (the funny part was he said the real reason was that I probably made obscene doodles in them. Maybe you had to be there.)

    I occasionally will highlight something I really like in another book. My copy of Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood was pretty marked up with favorite quotes.

  • Vanessa

    How funny. I just told a developer at work the other day that I can’t borrow programming books from our company library like everyone else as I always write notes in them. Programming books in addition to being something of a snooze are also frequently uncheap so I wish I had another method but nothing else works as well for me. So for those types of books, yes always.

    (the funny part was he said the real reason was that I probably made obscene doodles in them. Maybe you had to be there.)

    I occasionally will highlight something I really like in another book. My copy of Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood was pretty marked up with favorite quotes.

  • Vanessa

    This also, btw, reminds me of a great scene from the movie Say Anything. John Cusack’s prospective girlfriend tells him she looks up a word in the dictionary every day and then marks the word. He picks up her dictionary to find every page covered in ink marks and his look of intimidation is priceless.

  • Vanessa

    This also, btw, reminds me of a great scene from the movie Say Anything. John Cusack’s prospective girlfriend tells him she looks up a word in the dictionary every day and then marks the word. He picks up her dictionary to find every page covered in ink marks and his look of intimidation is priceless.

  • Heather Elia

    I use sticky notes for my cookbooks, and I wrote all over my textbooks at university. But now whether I write in a book depends on if it’s being read for personal pleasure or work-related pleasure. (I was going to say for work or fun, but reading books for work is usually fun, too.)

    I tend to make notes in the margins, and underline sentences or passages if I’m reading the book for one of my book clubs, especially when I want to remember something to share with the group, and extra-especially if I’m the one leading the discussion.

    Items read for my own purposes I tend not to write in.

    I like to think I am very strictly agianst book defacement, but I actually have to confess that I’m guilty of marring the spines on mass-market paperback from opening them too widely (recently did this with The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo and have multiple cracks in the spine).

    Also… I dog-ear the pages. I know I shouldn’t, but I can’t help it. If anyone can tell me a good way of narking a specific page in a book (rather than sticking a bookmark in between two pages)that doesn’t involve anything plastic or metal or anything that sticks up beyond the top of the page and that doesn’t create a lump when you close the book, please tell me.

  • Heather Elia

    I use sticky notes for my cookbooks, and I wrote all over my textbooks at university. But now whether I write in a book depends on if it’s being read for personal pleasure or work-related pleasure. (I was going to say for work or fun, but reading books for work is usually fun, too.)

    I tend to make notes in the margins, and underline sentences or passages if I’m reading the book for one of my book clubs, especially when I want to remember something to share with the group, and extra-especially if I’m the one leading the discussion.

    Items read for my own purposes I tend not to write in.

    I like to think I am very strictly agianst book defacement, but I actually have to confess that I’m guilty of marring the spines on mass-market paperback from opening them too widely (recently did this with The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo and have multiple cracks in the spine).

    Also… I dog-ear the pages. I know I shouldn’t, but I can’t help it. If anyone can tell me a good way of narking a specific page in a book (rather than sticking a bookmark in between two pages)that doesn’t involve anything plastic or metal or anything that sticks up beyond the top of the page and that doesn’t create a lump when you close the book, please tell me.

  • http://notenoughbookshelves.blogspot.com Alexa

    I write in cookbooks all the time, changing or adding stuff. I’m currently converting my UK ones to US measurements and ingredients – very necessary for cakes which use self rising flour!

    I also highlight passages in non-fiction books and turn down pages to remind me where they are.

    I leave fiction books alone. I used to copy out quotes I loved into a notebook but lately I’ve been collecting them on goodreads.

  • http://notenoughbookshelves.blogspot.com Alexa

    I write in cookbooks all the time, changing or adding stuff. I’m currently converting my UK ones to US measurements and ingredients – very necessary for cakes which use self rising flour!

    I also highlight passages in non-fiction books and turn down pages to remind me where they are.

    I leave fiction books alone. I used to copy out quotes I loved into a notebook but lately I’ve been collecting them on goodreads.

  • MNPam

    I write in cookbooks all of the time, and I started years ago because my mother did it. Now that I have some of her old cookbooks, it’s fun to go through them and see her handwriting and notes about the recipes.

    The only other book I can remember writing in (besides all of my cookbooks) is a book by Jimmy Buffett…A Pirate Looks at Fifty. I love that book and have marks all over it. I know Jimmy wouldn’t mind.

  • MNPam

    I write in cookbooks all of the time, and I started years ago because my mother did it. Now that I have some of her old cookbooks, it’s fun to go through them and see her handwriting and notes about the recipes.

    The only other book I can remember writing in (besides all of my cookbooks) is a book by Jimmy Buffett…A Pirate Looks at Fifty. I love that book and have marks all over it. I know Jimmy wouldn’t mind.

  • Leslie

    Writing in cookbooks: Check

    As for other books, yes, I write in them too. The more I love the book, and the more it speaks to me, the more writing you’ll find. I usually use pencil. But, after reading the comments, I feel like I have been given permission to use ink. Thanks!

    And a well annotated, note-filled, and worn book shows “love” for me. Looking at my shelf as I type this, I can tell the books that I love most as they are well-worn.

    Thanks for the prompts!

  • Leslie

    Writing in cookbooks: Check

    As for other books, yes, I write in them too. The more I love the book, and the more it speaks to me, the more writing you’ll find. I usually use pencil. But, after reading the comments, I feel like I have been given permission to use ink. Thanks!

    And a well annotated, note-filled, and worn book shows “love” for me. Looking at my shelf as I type this, I can tell the books that I love most as they are well-worn.

    Thanks for the prompts!

  • http://kathmeista.blogspot.com Kathryn

    I’m definitely in the “write in the book” camp but only if I own it and will keep it forever and only in pencil. I think it’s definitely a sign of love and engagement with the text. I have often had discussions with my brother in law who won’t even crack the spine of a book when he’s reading it! I say what’s the point? A book is something to be enjoyed and loved, not kept in pristine condition on the shelf looking like you just bought it.

  • http://kathmeista.blogspot.com Kathryn

    I’m definitely in the “write in the book” camp but only if I own it and will keep it forever and only in pencil. I think it’s definitely a sign of love and engagement with the text. I have often had discussions with my brother in law who won’t even crack the spine of a book when he’s reading it! I say what’s the point? A book is something to be enjoyed and loved, not kept in pristine condition on the shelf looking like you just bought it.

  • http://www.booksonthenightstand.com Ann Kingman

    I’m so glad that I’m not alone. I feel part two of this post coming on, where I confess that I (gasp!) also dog-ear pages. But that’s for another day.

    I love hearing about the books that you’ve all written in. What an interesting assortment.

    Thanks for all of the comments!

  • http://www.booksonthenightstand.com Ann Kingman

    I’m so glad that I’m not alone. I feel part two of this post coming on, where I confess that I (gasp!) also dog-ear pages. But that’s for another day.

    I love hearing about the books that you’ve all written in. What an interesting assortment.

    Thanks for all of the comments!

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